[Dx E]

The “F-Word”…..FEAR!

I’ve seen some folks out here dealing with the anxiety of upcoming surgery
And thought I’d post-
(a few years old- Please skip if not an interest…)
Some Thoughts about FEAR…..Everyone seems to have those Pre-Op “jitters” the week or two before surgery.
From reading the Boards over the last 6 years, that just seems to be a given fact.
With some,
It seems to be shear excitement,
The kind one gets just before the wedding.
And yet with others,
It seems to be full-blown FEAR!

I was not one of the Fearful and I’ve given it some thought as to Why that might have been.

2 reasons-
First, I don’t know that I viewed the procedure of WLS as THAT risky.
Four months earlier I had just had Open Heart Surgery to replace an Aortic Valve that had been faulty since birth.
I remember thinking-
“Compared to an operation where they stop my heart for 45 minutes, cut out a major portion of it, replace it with Teflon and Stainless Steel, then Hope it starts back up when they hit it with the electricity? WLS - Is a ‘Walk in the Park!’”

Perhaps that’s why I got to be one of the Rare individuals who had extreme complications.
I don’t know that I would have been as serious about my aftercare and so completely compliant with my Dr.’s’ orders if I didn’t view them at the onset as a matter of Life and Death.
Jolly for me – I’m now Below Goal and I attribute that success, (Rightly or Not) to the seriousness that I felt in approaching all of my aftercare, Diet, supplements, exercise, etc….

The Second thing that kept my fear at a minimum-
Was a combination of my Personal Spiritual Faith and my belief in the “Odds.”
I do, and have done a great deal of flying in my line of work.
(A lot easier now that I fit!)
I made and make as many as 40 flights a year.
I’ve had people ask me-
“Don’t you ever get the feeling that one of these flights, Your Number will ‘Be Up?’”
I have faith in the fact that “The Odds” are MUCH greater that I’ll be killed, driving within 2 miles of my own home, than meeting my death in an Airline Accident.
My Spiritual Faith lead me early on to jokingly pray-
“Let me Make it Home, or Make the News!”

That said, I’d leave it in the hands of my creator to watch over my safety, or use my Spectacular Death in such a way to focus the attention of the Media,
Perhaps even the whole World, on some issue that needed to be addressed.
(talk about Attention Hoe-er!)
I just didn’t ever want to die in some insignificant way.
Of those faiths – Odds and God,
The only one I think I could pass on to others is “The Odds.”

Everyone has his or her own personal belief system in place,
But many have a skewed view of the statistics of DEATH.
We tend to hear about sensation deaths because
The News doesn’t cover the boring stories, or No one would watch.

Here are some facts / figures-
The following are the chances of how one might die figured over your full lifetime and calculating only those people who come in contact with the various means of Death.

Example-
Only counting those people who ride motorcycles-
The chance of Death in a Motorcycle accident are-
1 in 1,214.
Get it?

Car Occupant? - 1 in 247.
(And who says motorcycles are so dangerous?)

Air Travel? – 1 in 4,023.
(That’s why I’m less afraid of flying than driving home)

So, What about Surgery?
Lumping ALL surgical procedures together, Tonsillectomies, Lung Transplants, Trauma Reconstruction (from all those Car accidents)
The risk?
Death due to Surgical Complication? – 1 in 1,222.
Seems scarier than flying,
But not nearly as bad as being in a car.
How does it compare to other events that we take for granted?

Accidentally Poisoning yourself? – 1 in 262.
Being Assaulted by Someone? – 1 in 182.
Burning in your home? – 1 in 1,116.
Burning in a Building (such as Office) ? – 1 in 1,382
Inhalation impairment -
(choking on food or under cleaners bag) ? – 1 in 665.
A fall outside of your home? – 1 in 472.
A Slip or Fall in your home? – 1 in 246.

Yes, more people are killed each year in the tub, by a piece of soap, than die on the nations highways!

For the skeptics among you- You can spend your own time researching such morbid trivia yourself at-
Kearl’s Guide to the Sociology of Death.
http://www.trinity.edu/~mkearl/death-2.html

Now all of this is not to add to your angst about the world we live in,
But rather, to put it in perspective.

You are more likely to be killed by an assault, in your car,
In your burning home, choking on your food, or slipping
On your front step or worse yet, your bathroom floor,
Than you are of dying in surgery.

Are you afraid to go in to your bathroom?
Get in your car?
Pass people in the Mall, who might very well attack you?
Probably not.

On the “Surgery Boards,” Some often get caught up in the
Differing complication –vs- success rates between
Lap and Open RNY, DS and Band.
Those differences are very real, but I avoid focusing on those options in the
Same way that I avoid fostering My Spiritual Beliefs, on to others.

Everyone has his or her own Salvation (medical or mental)
And it’s the same when asking people
Who have had what they know to be a “Life Saving Surgery,”
“Which is Best?”

I prefer to try to opt for the notion that Pre-Op jitters really are the equivalent to the Pre-Wedding Nerves.
(On that point, With the Divorce rate as is, your chances of a complication free, Super Successful WLS are Far Greater than having a marriage last for more than 8 years!)

Your Odds of Dying from Obesity related causes are FAR greater than your Odds of your Surgery going wrong.

Give your aftercare and Diet more serious and solemn concern than you do the thought of surgery. In the long run it will be AS, If not MORE important to your health.

Throw off the Shackles of FEAR!
While preparing to lose Weight, Take the Time
To “Lighten Up,” and Let Go of Fear and “Hostile Dependencies.”
You Take With You, What you Embrace.
Don’t ‘Embrace’ the Negatives,
Let ‘Em Go!”
Have the Greatest!
Be Nice to the Nurses-
(They’re overworked)
Enjoy the Drugs
(As much as you can)
And most importantly,
Hurry home to start walking –
(Away from those pounds, and)
Into your New Life!

Best Wishes-
Dx

[DeMarie]

Very interesting! Good read

[Chilly]

I absolutely LOVE your posts. I've caught a few of them on OH, but I'm really glad you are here posting. So much gets lost on the other board because of the amount of people/topics posted. You're an amazing writer!

[Dx E]

Originally Posted by Chilly

... a few of them on OH, but I'm really glad you are here posting.

I'm glad to be here too!
Some of my old recipes are here (from back when the place first started)
And I have read here on and off for a while.
Just thought it looked like such a sweet bunch of folks
Thought I'd participate.

Best Wishes-
Dx

[TamTamW]

Love reading your posts, Thanks for joining in.

[DocSanae]

Yay for positive thoughts!!!
Yes, I think I know who you are from OH, too, I used to lurk there when CraigT first started this board, to get the feel of things. Thanks for joining us, Dx E.

[qt82699]

great read, thanks for sharing!!

[Christy0283]

Great job! As others have said, you're a great writer. Thanks for posting.