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04-13-2006, 04:40 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Kuwait
Posts: 2,213
Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics for ever! Start Date:
4/18/06 Surgery Date:
Height: 335 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
154 lb Goal Weight:
158 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.1641791045 % % Lost:
9/18/07 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 59 BMI Start:
30 BMI Current:
26 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  |  Mixed feelings pre op Yesterday my hubby and I had a confertation talk about the surgery. He asked me "Why have you decided to do the bypass approach"? I had a minute thinking about it, and when I answered him I got in to burst. until this moment while I'm typing this post I have rage and anger over burden feelings. It's a lot of hatred and rage towards all the people who were calling me with bad names, people who made fun of my heavy weight. I badly want to lose weight to show them the new me!! huh some of these people die by accidents or because of a sickness, but yet I cannot let it go!!! Is this normal feeling? I feel bad. I don't want to start a new phase of life with such a negative drive. This hurts so bad 
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04-13-2006, 04:42 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
Posts: 6,755
Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date:
Height: 310 lb Start Weight:
167 lb Current Weight:
159 lb Goal Weight:
143 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
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Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start:
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Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass    |  JUST WANTED TO OFFER YOU A BIG (((HUG)))))).... its a very EMOTIONAL journey and the emotions start at the beginning stages while decideing whats best for yourself. I didnt listen to anyone with negative at me for this choice as when i personally went this path i was useing this as MY LAST RESORT to be thin. SO nothing would change my mind. I think your feeling are normal. ALL the best lisa PS: i am signing into chat now if you need to talk!
__________________ LISA  http://w5.photobucket.com/widgets/dy...164/fr1endly2/ LAP RNY Gastric Bypass  |
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04-13-2006, 06:36 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NYC the best place in the world to live!
Posts: 2,757
Weight Statistics Halloween 2005 Start Date:
4' 11" Height: 212 lb Start Weight:
127 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
85 lb Weight Loss:
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Body Mass Index 42.8141338696 BMI Start:
25.6480896294 BMI Current:
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Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | Hello Chuppy. What i want to say is that what you are feeling is normal. You have been hurt, people were mean. THe most important thing is to be able to let go of the anger. This is important for yourself. Built up anger and resentment cause stree on the body that you do not need. The way to stick it to them is to have your surgery, get healthy and feel good about yourself.  It is a rollercoaster of emotions this journey. Hang in there!
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04-13-2006, 06:42 AM
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| Super Moderator  Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: illinois
Posts: 510
Weight Statistics 9/12/05 Start Date:
9/12/05 Surgery Date:
Height: 317 lb Start Weight:
184 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
133 lb Weight Loss:
34 lb Lb Left to Lose:
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09/12/07 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start:
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Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | huggs chuppy...we have all been there...and the way i look at it is most people put you down to make themselves feel superior.and anyone that needs to do that is not worth my time OR my anger.you know in your heart why you are doing this...it needs to be for no one but you.it's all about you baby!!!!! those with negativity don't count. huggs christy
__________________ ChristyBlue surgery 9/12/05 open RNY BMI 51/29 315/185/150  130 pounds lost
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04-13-2006, 07:10 AM
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| WLS Mentor  | (((HUGS)))cuppy. yes there are alot of emotions we go through before and after (apparently after), this surgery. I think that being angry at all of those people who ever hurt you with their name calling, and making fun of your weight is normal, and hard to let go of. You must realize that alot of people use jokes or put downs to make themselves feel better and some do it because they don't understand what it's like. It wouldn't be so funny to them if they were where you (we) are now. And you've really should feel pity for them. They will always (maybe not, but most), be in the dark about what we go through, the jokes, the strange looks, the mean comments,and you will know both sides of the coin after you lose the weight. So though i know it's easy to be angry try to look at it that they also deserve pity. You know what you are doing this surgery for and it's your desire for health and thinness that counts, no matter what anybody says. I started out wanting this surgery because it is a last resort to a healthy lifestyle for me, the wanting to be thin and thinking what i would look like after came second for me. But i have to admitt i can't wait to prance around those who made fun of me when i was fat.
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04-13-2006, 02:32 PM
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| Cub Reporter  | Hi there, it was great talking to you in chat. I think that the feelings of anger often stem from us being so angry at ourselves for not being in control of our weight, and I know that I found that as I lost the weight and gained control the anger towards myself and others dissipated. I am now so much more confident and secure in myself that even if I get any negative vibes from anyone it no longer bothers me - like water off a ducks back! Best wishes ChuppyGirl, I hope you can find inner confidence too, and then those people that are nasty will mean nothing. Heidi |
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04-14-2006, 01:56 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Kuwait
Posts: 2,213
Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics for ever! Start Date:
4/18/06 Surgery Date:
Height: 335 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
154 lb Goal Weight:
158 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.1641791045 % % Lost:
9/18/07 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 59 BMI Start:
30 BMI Current:
26 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass |  Thanks for cheering me up Gals, Your replies are certainly heart touching. I don't know what I would be doing without all this strong support!!! Today I feel more in peace I think maybe because I talked about it with you and with my hubby. I hate to be weenie or weak, that's never me at all. I used to be the strongest in my family and my peers. But I think it was the collapse moment for me and now I'm completely ready for it! Yes as all of you were saying go for it and this time for yourself go for reconciliation with my tortured soul!! Not for anybody else, or to breath an old anger...Do it for yourself and your own health..get fit and healthy and enjoy the confident new you...yessss I want to be strong and confident and get out of my cocoon and go everywhere with a strong good looking me :~)  (((((((****HUGS & KISSES****))))))
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04-14-2006, 01:58 AM
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| Super Moderator  | ((((((HUGS))))))), Chuppy. You may have negative feelings about many people now, but don't let that worry you. You've made this choice for surgery because you wanted a better and healthier life for yourself, first, and your children and husband. What others say/do/think is moot when compared to this positive control that you want. When you are able to break your cocoon and fly, what you found upsetting before, may not matter to you at all. Just like Heidi says. Think one day at a time, and let God's will be done. You are sure to find peace in your soul.
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04-15-2006, 04:40 PM
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| Newbie | Chuppy, In Tai Chi there is a posture called "Embracing the Tiger." In Taoism this refers to facing the tiger, or facing your fears. I was made fun of my whole life, and I'm scared to have the surgery too because I am afraid of the unknown. But if you face your fear and make peace with your soul, you can beat down this anger. One of the things you can do after your surgery is to be an advocate for "fat discrimination." Who understands this as well as us? We can make a difference by being accepting and kind and getting others to understand.  |
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