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01-31-2009, 10:24 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Oregon
Posts: 128
Weight Statistics December 14, 2008 Start Date:
February 4th, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
241 lb Start Weight:
173 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
68 lb Weight Loss:
38 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.2157676349 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index44.0746618106 BMI Start:
31.6386576483 BMI Current:
24.6891259105 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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OK, so surgery is on the 4th & im starting to get really nervous! Im a little emotional today & my son is also home from Iraq & will going back on the 9th. Im emotional just having him home & worry that every time he turns around & walks out the door, he may not be back. And I guess it's true what they say about how important it is to not make any drastic decisions when your stressed. I was out running around this morning & almost bought a car! A car I can't afford. So glad I didn't buy it! Geez, what's wrong with me?! Im excited about the surgery & I know it will be the best thing for me, I guess im just nervous because this has been such a long haul & with that, comes so much time to think about everything over & over again...almost makes you crazy  Have any of you felt like this right before surgery? I also wanted to write my son a letter, just in case I dont make it through the surgery. I know this seems a bit extreme, but I already lost my husband to cancer when my son was 11 & I worry that something will happen to me & then he wont have a mom or a dad. And I just want to be sure he knows how much I love him. Im dreading just the idea of sitting down & putting myself in that kind of emotional state to write this letter to my son, but I feel I have to. Doc, any inspirational or insightfull words of wisdom you can offer, is greatly appreciated! I could use it right now 
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02-01-2009, 12:00 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: No. Los Angeles County, CA
Posts: 2,849
Weight Statistics 4.29.08 RNY Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
168 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
133 lb Weight Loss:
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44.1860465116 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index45.7618944637 BMI Start:
25.5415224913 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
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Many people write letters to loved ones before ANY anesthesia. I only said to hub before I went under, "Cremation...no service...got it??" But we are a couple of few words.
Being scared is OK and totally normal. I tell people who are scared that it is important to be more ready than scared...then you know it is time.
I am not sure if I could go through it with the "boy" home for so short a time...I will throw the idea out there that maybe you want to delay the surgery a couple weeks so you can have the surgery after he has gone back overseas? Just a thought.
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"Burning out this fuse out here alone" Surgery 4.29.08
11-29-08: Down 90 lbs. Total cholesterol is under 200 for the first time in my adult life!
1.11.09: 100 lbs down! Century Club! WHOO HOO! 
7.10.09 GOL! GOL! GOLGOLGOLGOLGOL! GGGGOOOOLLL!
1.10.10 Still at goal.
2.21.12 up a bit. Back on track, I hope. 
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02-01-2009, 08:09 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Troy,ny
Posts: 2,799
Weight Statistics Since birth:) Start Date:
August 5, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
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319 lb Start Weight:
189 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
130 lb Weight Loss:
39 lb Lb Left to Lose:
40.7523510972 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index51.4823232323 BMI Start:
30.5020661157 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
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Ditto judijo! It is perfectly normal to be scared and to write the "just in case" letter. You are having major surgery. May God bless your son and allow him to be safe in Iraq and return home safely.
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02-01-2009, 09:07 AM
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Your reactions are quite normal. In fact, I know some people bawled all the way to the OR.
You'll do fine ((((((HUGS))))))
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02-01-2009, 09:47 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 2,004
Weight Statistics July 07 Start Date:
1/24/08 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
309 lb Start Weight:
135 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
174 lb Weight Loss:
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56.3106796117 % % Lost:
02/01/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.4146745562 BMI Start:
22.4627218935 BMI Current:
23.2946745562 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Even though I wanted surgery worse then anything I ever wanted I was scared! I was one of those who cried the whole time I was getting prep for surgery. I'm sure the tears dried up while I went under, there were many. Would I have done it again? Oh yeah, just wished I'd done it sooner.
I wanted to write letters to my children but in the end I couldn't get myself to do it. I did fill out a POA and on there there is a spot to put some personal notes and that is what I did. My ex left when my kids were 11 & 13, I know not the same a dying, but I have raised them alone since then.
This is an exciting and nerve racking time. Hang in there. It is all worth it.
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02-01-2009, 10:02 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North West, NJ
Posts: 2,707
Weight Statistics 1/14/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
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330 lb Start Weight:
235 lb Current Weight:
200 lb Goal Weight:
95 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
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Body Mass Index47.3448979592 BMI Start:
33.7153061224 BMI Current:
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Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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What you are feeling is very normal. Everyone has their own situation going on in their life, but we all, for whatever reasons, were worried. You'll be fine. Hugs to you. May God bless you and your son.
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02-01-2009, 11:22 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Tampa, FL
Posts: 3,605
Weight Statistics July 10, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
271 lb Start Weight:
175 lb Current Weight:
182 lb Goal Weight:
96 lb Weight Loss:
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35.4243542435 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index43.7357667585 BMI Start:
28.2426538108 BMI Current:
29.3723599633 BMI Goal:
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I did the POA and later when DH and I were traveling, I did a letter, just in case. I had some pretty good anxiety just prior, I actually think that was the worst of the whole journey!
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02-01-2009, 12:29 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Oregon
Posts: 128
Weight Statistics December 14, 2008 Start Date:
February 4th, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
241 lb Start Weight:
173 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
68 lb Weight Loss:
38 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.2157676349 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index44.0746618106 BMI Start:
31.6386576483 BMI Current:
24.6891259105 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Thanks everyone! Glad to hear im not the only one feeling anxiety & doing silly thing's before surgery. In a way,im really glad my son is home right now. We didn't plan it that way, it just so happens his vacation time coincides w/the time im having surgery. So in some way, i think this was supposed to happen when he was home on leave. At least if anything should happen during or right after surgery, he will be here. Thank you everyone for your good thoughts & well wishes..it means a lot to me.
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02-01-2009, 07:13 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dallas
Posts: 77
Weight Statistics October 22, 2008 Start Date:
October 29, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
235 lb Start Weight:
165 lb Current Weight:
155 lb Goal Weight:
70 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
29.7872340426 % % Lost:
June 19, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index36.8021831143 BMI Start:
25.8398306973 BMI Current:
24.273780352 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I also wrote letters to parents and my husband. I was so nervous that I made some really screwed up decisions the last week before the surgery. I guess that's all normal.
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