im helpless i swear

concernedwife2007 · 07-24-2007, 08:15 PM

Well we have new events. Lately I have been shrinking his stomach some(unknown to him somehow). So due to this he eats less and less often. This is a great thing. EXCEPT, we are staying at his grams for the week and she always encourages him to eat till he's full. Well today he ate the amount that I've gotten him to and she kept offering him more so he took it. He ate about half of the second plate and ran to the bathroom puking. I know this cant be good. Did we shrink his stomach to much? Or do we need to sit and have a talk with his gram so that she understands he can only eat so much? This is all proving out to be more work than I can handle. But I'm sure we will get through this. Please pray for us and any suggestions are very welcome.

DocSanae · 07-25-2007, 01:13 AM

Okay, you may not want to hear what I have to say, but if you are really concerned about his health, then, you will have to deal in a different way.

What do you mean, "shrinking his stomach unknown to him"? Are you using something unknown to him?
Then, I am sorry but,
1) what you are doing is not commendable, and may even be medically dangerous, especially if you have not discussed this with his dr, and the dr's given you the relase to use whatever, which to me is unthinkable, because it is unethical for any dr to use any substance without informing the patient himself in person of what is going to be used, what the effect will be, both good and bad.
2) you must let him know what is up, because if he finds out from some other route, that is a sure fire way to ram a wedge into the turst between you two. (Take this from a woman who has been married to the same man ofr over 30 years. The first thing you need for a good strong marriage is trust.)

So, you have some straightening out to do first, not with his gram, but with yourself and him.
Your concern about your husband's health is commendable, but as everyone has repeated in all the past posts, there is no way your husband will achieve any weightloss that makes a difference unless he himself gets really into it. Until then, what you need to do most is to be a good and understading wife to him, someone that he will trust even when he becomes unable to trust anybody else.
Be careful that you don't break that trust, whatever you do.

((((((HUGS))))))

07-24-2007, 08:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
concernedwife2007 Newbie Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: New Castle, PA Posts: 4 Please Enter Height:	im helpless i swear Well we have new events. Lately I have been shrinking his stomach some(unknown to him somehow). So due to this he eats less and less often. This is a great thing. EXCEPT, we are staying at his grams for the week and she always encourages him to eat till he's full. Well today he ate the amount that I've gotten him to and she kept offering him more so he took it. He ate about half of the second plate and ran to the bathroom puking. I know this cant be good. Did we shrink his stomach to much? Or do we need to sit and have a talk with his gram so that she understands he can only eat so much? This is all proving out to be more work than I can handle. But I'm sure we will get through this. Please pray for us and any suggestions are very welcome.

07-25-2007, 01:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
DocSanae Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan Posts: 9,484 Blog Entries: 2 5' 5" Height:	Okay, you may not want to hear what I have to say, but if you are really concerned about his health, then, you will have to deal in a different way. What do you mean, "shrinking his stomach unknown to him"? Are you using something unknown to him? Then, I am sorry but, 1) what you are doing is not commendable, and may even be medically dangerous, especially if you have not discussed this with his dr, and the dr's given you the relase to use whatever, which to me is unthinkable, because it is unethical for any dr to use any substance without informing the patient himself in person of what is going to be used, what the effect will be, both good and bad. 2) you must let him know what is up, because if he finds out from some other route, that is a sure fire way to ram a wedge into the turst between you two. (Take this from a woman who has been married to the same man ofr over 30 years. The first thing you need for a good strong marriage is trust.) So, you have some straightening out to do first, not with his gram, but with yourself and him. Your concern about your husband's health is commendable, but as everyone has repeated in all the past posts, there is no way your husband will achieve any weightloss that makes a difference unless he himself gets really into it. Until then, what you need to do most is to be a good and understading wife to him, someone that he will trust even when he becomes unable to trust anybody else. Be careful that you don't break that trust, whatever you do. ((((((HUGS)))))) __________________ "In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun." Just a li'l bit 'bout myself

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