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02-28-2008, 09:25 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kenosha, Wisconsin
Posts: 203
Weight Statistics June 18, 2007 Start Date:
July 25, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
333 lb Start Weight:
163 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
170 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
51.0510510511 % % Lost:
February 25, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7753061224 BMI Start:
23.3855102041 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  Why am I embarrassed?
My father was here on Monday to watch Shelby while I ran errands and went to another home daycare to observe for class. Because I was going to have my drivers license renewed, I did my hair and makeup, like i do each day, but I wore more flattering clothes (for daycare I wear srubs and leggings). He didnt say a word to me. Today my mom called to say that dad has been talking about you non-stop since he came home from your house. he says you look phenomenal and he is so proud of you. He has called the family to tell them as well. This is very nice. However - he didnt say one word to me.
I am embarrassed by the attention my weight loss has brought about. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE THE ATTENTION from my husband. The man can get his arms around me and then some. I love to be in his arms and I didnt really realize how much I missed it being as heavy as I was. But from others - even those related to me and who have loved me as I am for so many years - I find myself blushing, waving my hand to them, and dismissing the whole conversation.
I didnt go through this for attention, I went through it so that I can have a healthy, happy long life with my family, and especially for my daughter. Shelby is the reason I exist. She is my world. I never imagined loving another as much as I love her. She is my angel, sent to me from heaven to make me realize that I was killing myself. Thank you Shelby for coming into my life.
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02-28-2008, 09:27 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kenosha, Wisconsin
Posts: 203
Weight Statistics June 18, 2007 Start Date:
July 25, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
333 lb Start Weight:
163 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
170 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
51.0510510511 % % Lost:
February 25, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7753061224 BMI Start:
23.3855102041 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Havent seen my friend Cheryl since November. Since November I have lost another 50 or so pounds. She came over last Tuesday with her daughter for a playdate and to help give me ideas to better my daycare classroom (she is a teacher and has her masters degree in early childhood education). She walked in and was in tears - exclamating on good I looked. She was so proud of me.
I was embarrassed, ashamed that I didnt do it. The surgery did it. I just do as I should post op and continue about my life. I dont feel like I myself have done anything. This has been a very hard journey, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. Why do I belittle the work I have put into this to ensure its success?
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Tina | |
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02-28-2008, 09:30 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kenosha, Wisconsin
Posts: 203
Weight Statistics June 18, 2007 Start Date:
July 25, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
333 lb Start Weight:
163 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
170 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
51.0510510511 % % Lost:
February 25, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7753061224 BMI Start:
23.3855102041 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I go to the bank to make a deposit, purchase some savings bonds, etc... The teller asks for my ID. I give it. She says, "Do you have any other photo IDs?" I tell her no, why? She says this picture doesnt look anything like you. Um... look at the face, its the exact same, just not swollen. Give me a freaking break!
Thankfully my drivers license renewal was up and I had to go have a new picture taken. The lady at the DMV asked me how I lost so much weight (my old figure was 260 (I lied in 2004) and I put 199 now (I will be 199 by next month right?))? First off, should she be asking that? Second off, my response was - oh I had surgery. Very flippant. Like I had no part in it. The surgery was a tool - i did the work. What is wrong with me?
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02-28-2008, 09:39 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Tampa, FL
Posts: 3,605
Weight Statistics July 10, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
271 lb Start Weight:
175 lb Current Weight:
182 lb Goal Weight:
96 lb Weight Loss:
-7 lb Lb Left to Lose:
35.4243542435 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index43.7357667585 BMI Start:
28.2426538108 BMI Current:
29.3723599633 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I know what you mean, sometimes the whole thing is so surreal. I have dreamed of this for years and how things would be different in some ways and just normal in others, but it really does change us. I get people telling me how much I've changed, how I take such better care of myself now, etc. The other day, someone stated that some of us had become comfortable in being the invisible big girl in the room and I think that to some degree I def had. These questions you are asking shows personal growth, congrats on becoming the new you 
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02-28-2008, 09:43 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: upstate ny
Posts: 2,091
Weight Statistics 1/10/08, the final endeavor, I WILL SUCCEED!!! Start Date:
3/12/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
316 lb Start Weight:
203 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
35.7594936709 % % Lost:
7/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index55.9707734946 BMI Start:
35.9559082892 BMI Current:
31.8820861678 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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YOU KNOW I WONDER HOW I'LL RESPOND TO OTHERS AFTER MY SURGERY & MAJOR WEIGHT LOSS........ I'M NOT SO SURE WHAT WILL COME FROM MY MOUTH SINCE IF ASKED DIRECTLY AS MOST PEOPLE DO, I"M NOT ONE TO LIE....... THE PROBLEM I'M HAVING WITH YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU ARE NOT GIVING YOURSELF THE CREDIT YOU CLEARLY DESERVE... LETS BE COMPLETELY HONEST.... IF YOU HAD THE SURGURY & DIDN't FOLLOW THE LIFESTYLE CHANGES,  YOU WOULD HAVE NEVER LOST & BE WHERE YOU ARE TODAY!!!!!!!!  GIVE YOURSELF A TAP ON THE BACK SIDE OF YOUR HEAD FROM ME!!!!!!!!!!! YOU NEED PRACTICE WITH TAKING COMPLIMENTS & ACKNOWLEDGING THE FACT THAT YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!! CONGRATS ON A GREAT SUCCESS!!!!!!!! THOSE WOW MOMENTS YOU SHOULD BE POSTING>>>> KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK YOU ARE DOING!!!!!  LOL, | |
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02-28-2008, 09:46 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NY
Posts: 10,174
Weight Statistics 4/19/2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
260 lb Start Weight:
152 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.5384615385 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index38.3910943079 BMI Start:
22.4440243646 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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all i can say is YES. i AGREE. BEEN there. but its a process. you will grow into it. the amazing thing about all of this is that yes, its changes our bodies but what it does for the mind and for the soul is imeasurable. you will come to know what i mean. you are right where i was before it clicked. and you verbalized so well! give it some more time. you are doing so well
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02-28-2008, 09:49 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Minnesota
Posts: 1,427
Weight Statistics On and off my whole life...Highest weight was 326 Start Date:
November 20, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
287 lb Start Weight:
210 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
77 lb Weight Loss:
40 lb Lb Left to Lose:
26.8292682927 % % Lost:
August 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.3778617937 BMI Start:
31.0081915564 BMI Current:
25.1018693552 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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It is the surgery that gave you the tool, it was all you how did all of the hard work in using the tool the right way or you would not be where you are at right now.
I know it is hard to take the compliments that other give you, because before surgery there were no compliments from nobody, if anything there were different remarks made because of our weight.
Try to work on accepting the compliments from others, hold your head up, and give yourself a pat on the back for the great job that you have done. Keep up the good work.
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02-28-2008, 09:51 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kenosha, Wisconsin
Posts: 203
Weight Statistics June 18, 2007 Start Date:
July 25, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
333 lb Start Weight:
163 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
170 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
51.0510510511 % % Lost:
February 25, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7753061224 BMI Start:
23.3855102041 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Does this mean the fat person is still here, inside me - picking on me?
GOD FAT TINA - GO AWAY! You are not welcome here... NO MORE NO MORE NO MORE NO MORE - Hit the road, FAT TINA - and dont you come back no more. *singing*
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02-28-2008, 09:53 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NY
Posts: 10,174
Weight Statistics 4/19/2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
260 lb Start Weight:
152 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.5384615385 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index38.3910943079 BMI Start:
22.4440243646 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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LOL. i think she is still there. i dont think its really sunk in for you just how far you have come...and im not just talking about the scale. it takes time though...
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02-28-2008, 10:04 PM
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#10 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kenosha, Wisconsin
Posts: 203
Weight Statistics June 18, 2007 Start Date:
July 25, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
333 lb Start Weight:
163 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
170 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
51.0510510511 % % Lost:
February 25, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7753061224 BMI Start:
23.3855102041 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| Do you keep the pictures out?
My home is probably like a lot of yours - TONS of family pictures. Over my fat years, I slowly erased myself from our family history by not appearing in photos or not printing the ones with me in them. However, on rare occassions, like cruises or family pictures, I would end up in a picture. There are quite a few "fat" Tina pictures around the house.
When people come over, especially those that just met me, that didn't know Fat Tina... they ALWAYS say something. They know I had surgery and that I have lost 123 lbs. But I dont think they realize how much 123 lbs is. They are amazed at how large I really was.
I was thinking its time to take the pictures away, put them in storage. Part of me is thinking I am denying where I came from and how hard I've been working; that I should leave them out. Part of me would rather not deal with the comments and be embarrassed of the fact that I had surgery to help gain control of my life. Part of me wants to be reminded that if I am not careful, I could end up right back where I came from.
Do you keep the pictures out?
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Tina | |
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