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11-30-2008, 11:38 AM
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Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Central NY
Posts: 3
Weight Statistics All my life (11/01/07) Start Date:
01/12/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
303 lb Start Weight:
167 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
136 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.8844884488 % % Lost:
06/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index53.6681783825 BMI Start:
29.5794910557 BMI Current:
26.5684051398 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I am miserable. I mean really. I was heavy all my life, and I've gone from 303 to 167 in 11 months. I'm healthier so why am I not happier? Part of the problem is how ruined my body is, ever read the story 'the saggy baggy elephant'? That's what I see in the mirror now, there's no way I'll let anyone see me naked! I haven't had a relationship in 3 years and now I'm scared to death to even think about it. Plus I have this incredible chip on my shoulder, being told all my life what a pretty face I had and a nice personality and now men look at me differently and I want to say 'Oh I'm good enough for you now?' I know, I need therapy, but my co-pay is 40 bucks a visit and I'm a single mom, I just can't afford it. I think I put too much stock that this was going to solve all my problems and it really didn't. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy I'm healthier for my kids and I love buying smaller clothes, not wheezing up a flight of stairs, alot of things...but really on the inside I still feel fat and I'm really unhappy. None of my friends understand, I tend to have thin friends and some now don't even want to hang out, like I'm competition or something...how sad... I dunno, just venting I guess, maybe someone on here can relate and we can chat. Dawn
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11-30-2008, 07:28 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: DEPTFORD NJ
Posts: 1,773
Weight Statistics Pre-Operation. Start Date:
oct 21st 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
278 lb Start Weight:
149 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
129 lb Weight Loss:
-1 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.4028776978 % % Lost:
2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7133789062 BMI Start:
25.5729980469 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodAitkens
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i am sorry you are feeling sad i hope all gets better for you i will pray for you take care and keep us posted
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11-30-2008, 07:38 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 2,004
Weight Statistics July 07 Start Date:
1/24/08 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
309 lb Start Weight:
135 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
174 lb Weight Loss:
-5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
56.3106796117 % % Lost:
02/01/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.4146745562 BMI Start:
22.4627218935 BMI Current:
23.2946745562 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Sorry to hear you are feeling down. I had those feelings about 15 years ago when I did the liquid diet, Metafast, and got down to 133. I hated the way people treated me differently when I still felt I was the same. I truly believe deep down that is why I put the 88 pounds I lost plus a whole lot more because I didn't like the attention. I posted, might even be in my intro, how I had hoped that I was more mature this time to handle it. Guess what? I love it! Give yourself a pat on the back. YOu have done a great job. I know what you mean about all of the skin but being healthy is more important. I'll never be able to have plastics done but I am happy. Please consider talking to someone. I see a psych doc for depression and anxiety and first time she heard I was having surgery she gave me a name of a counsler who specializes in weight loss therepy. I have not had the need to schedule an appt. but know where I can go if I need to. This site may even help you, it is a great group of people.
Please take care of yourself.
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11-30-2008, 07:42 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Texas
Posts: 5,236
Weight Statistics I've lost/gained my whole life!!! Start Date:
Aug 1, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
126 lb Weight Loss:
4 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45 % % Lost:
Summer 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.5692041522 BMI Start:
23.4130622837 BMI Current:
22.8049307958 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I feel your pain....and I'm married...my hubby is really the only one that sees my wrinkles...but still, the journey feels incomplete with what we see now....I'm out of work and cosmetic surgery is expensive and NOT covered by most insurance companies...I would love to address is now while I'm off, but there's no way in hell I can justify biting off a $20k or $30K bill right now....and I know inside, it will probably be at LEAST another year before anything can be done about it....
Buck up...you are healthier...and anyone who judges you on the "package" probably isn't worth having anyway....you have extended your life, and that's a GREAT THING.....!
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11-30-2008, 07:44 PM
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#5 (permalink)
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Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NY
Posts: 10,174
Weight Statistics 4/19/2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
260 lb Start Weight:
152 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.5384615385 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index38.3910943079 BMI Start:
22.4440243646 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i went thru this. i think if you search you can find some of my old posts where i say the EXACT same things. hang in there. for me, it comes with being completely comfortable in your new skin. thats takes a LONG time. i am still not really there yet.
i wasnt expecting the surgery to cure anything. in fact i didnt even realize there was anything that needed curing until i lost the weight. its a tough journey. you will make it once you get to know the new you. just hang in there 
ps. friends who treat you the way you are describing are not worth having. you need everyone in your life to be supportive of your journey in ALL aspects.
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11-30-2008, 08:03 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Orlando FL
Posts: 997
Weight Statistics 8/7/08 Start Date:
8/20/08 Surgery Date:
6' 1"
Height:
338 lb Start Weight:
188 lb Current Weight:
199 lb Goal Weight:
150 lb Weight Loss:
-11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.3786982249 % % Lost:
Happiness is the new goal Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.5888534434 BMI Start:
24.8009007318 BMI Current:
26.252017264 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Any friend that treats you like that needs das boot. I understand the image problems but healthier is better. Good Luck and welcome to this slice of paradise, many very good people and a ton of great support.
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11-30-2008, 10:41 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan
Posts: 24,797
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Welcome to the board, thank you for joining us.
Congratulations on your wonderful weight loss.
(((((((HUGS)))))) May your journey go well.
You are not the only one having the feelings you have. There's a heck of a lot more about living than weight, but at the same time, getting to know people does start out with first impressions. Not everything will come together at once, and there is going to be a need for a lot of head work as well as leg work. Take your new changes step by step, one step at a time. Over time, they will add up to a long distance covered.
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12-01-2008, 09:01 AM
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#8 (permalink)
| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North West, NJ
Posts: 2,707
Weight Statistics 1/14/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
330 lb Start Weight:
235 lb Current Weight:
200 lb Goal Weight:
95 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.7878787879 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index47.3448979592 BMI Start:
33.7153061224 BMI Current:
28.693877551 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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It's hard but say out loud what you are thankful/happy about...
You have your health back and your kids have their Mom...
hugs to you!
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12-01-2008, 09:09 AM
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#9 (permalink)
| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2007 Location: minnesota
Posts: 5,595
Weight Statistics july 21, 2007 Start Date:
august 17, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.7876106195 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index54.7100550964 BMI Start:
28.5654269972 BMI Current:
25.8218549128 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i know how you are feeling...i am happy with alot of things about my weightloss but i thought i would be happier and it hasnt happened, this surgery dosnt change the person we are on the inside, i guess those are issues we also have to fix...good luck!!
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12-01-2008, 10:10 AM
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#10 (permalink)
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Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Alabama
Posts: 4,019
Weight Statistics 9/28/07 Start Date:
9/28/07 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
279 lb Start Weight:
186 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
93 lb Weight Loss:
11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
33.3333333333 % % Lost:
18 months Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.0268595041 BMI Start:
30.0179063361 BMI Current:
28.2426538108 BMI Goal:
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I can definitely relate to how you feel. I knew the surgery wasn't a fix to all, but I am definitely finding emotional issues that I know I need to deal with. We will all get there. It just takes both time and us being there for each other.
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