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12-12-2009, 04:54 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Baltimore, MD
Posts: 75
Weight Statistics All my life! Start Date:
12/28/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
326 lb Start Weight:
198 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
128 lb Weight Loss:
28 lb Lb Left to Lose:
39.263803681 % % Lost:
2/20/2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index54.2433136095 BMI Start:
32.9453254438 BMI Current:
28.2863905325 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Well, today is 12/12/09. I am feeling rather nervous and more excited today. I think as the time is getting closer, reality is hitting in that I am really going through with this surgery. Pre-admissions called me from the hospital Thursday to go over everything with me for the 28th. Now it really seems like it is finally going to happen and I am so scared. I have mixed emotions I guess.
One of my sisters found out last night (she's an RN) and she is totally against it. I mean she ran down every reason I shouldn't have this done. That I can just lose the weight with diet and exercise. And if I can't do that without the surgery then how do I expect to do it with the surgery. or if I can go on a 10-day liquid diet, then I can just do that. LOL. How crazy is that? I have tried everything. I am so frustrated. I guess I wish other people could understand that this is not an easy decision to make. And that I am not doing this to seek attention. Not to mention the lack of mobility/exercise I am getting now. And how bad I feel physically.
But her feelings are that I have soo many surgeries. But they weren't something I chose. And I am sure she will tell my other 2 sisters and father. I guess it doesn't really matter what they think because they aren't speaking to me anyway... 
I believe that I am making the right decision for me. I have prayed about it and I am very thankful to the Lord for allowing me opportunity to be transformed physically, spiritually and mentally! 
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12-12-2009, 05:54 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: May 2009 Location: Salida, CA
Posts: 678
Weight Statistics First Consult 10/21/08 Start Date:
11/20/08 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
276 lb Start Weight:
121 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
155 lb Weight Loss:
-29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
56.1594202899 % % Lost:
goal 8/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.22298953 BMI Start:
18.949209178 BMI Current:
23.4907551793 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I am so sorry your sister doesn't agree on the surgery, but it's for you and your health. And yes it will be here before you know it. You will become more healthy and that is for you. Just think some of the things you haven't been able to do you will. I think they will come around will just take some time once they see the results. Your health is number one. and this is for you! Keep your head up. Wishing you all the luck.
Judy
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12-12-2009, 06:17 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Lafayette, Louisiana
Posts: 169
Weight Statistics November 17, 2009 Start Date:
December 1, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
365 lb Start Weight:
215 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
150 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.095890411 % % Lost:
Dec 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.3663265306 BMI Start:
30.8459183673 BMI Current:
25.8244897959 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Family opinions may matter, but they don't walk in your shoes. You have to get up everyday in your body and live your life. I think you did right by praying and doing what is right for yourself. I was pretty fortunate in not having anyone say that they didn't want me to have the surgery, some were concerned, but not out right against it. It's been almost two weeks since my surgery and I am thankful for this chance to get thin, be healthy and change my life.
Be proud of yourself Angie and in the end they will all see you made the best decision.
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12-12-2009, 07:00 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: North
Posts: 2,180
Weight Statistics August 20, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' "
Height:
210 lb Start Weight:
102 lb Current Weight:
110 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
51.4285714286 % % Lost:
August 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.0083333333 BMI Start:
19.9183333333 BMI Current:
21.4805555556 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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When all is said & done you need to do what's right for you not what your family or anyone else feels is right. I know I'm preaching to the choir here but...if you could have lost & kept weight off that's what you'd have done. Right? Diets don't work long term. Lifestyle change does. Some of us, such as yourself, need the additional tool (pouch). There's no shame in that. Choosing WLS indicates an intelligence & self awareness that many others do not have. Hang tough.
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12-12-2009, 07:07 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Mississippi
Posts: 5,198
Weight Statistics 3/18/2008 (dieted all my life) Start Date:
9/30/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
292 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
100 lb Weight Loss:
3 lb Lb Left to Lose:
34.2465753425 % % Lost:
2 years Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.3935986159 BMI Start:
29.1903114187 BMI Current:
28.7342128028 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I just don't understand why so many people put this surgery down. I think that they just don't know a lot about it or understand it. I believe with all my heart that it saved my life. I was home bound and would not leave the house unless it was a must. I was on so many medications and was in such bad health. I could not do things that I wanted to do and my self-esteem was so low. I was ashamed of the way looked. I was letting life pass me by.. Now I am off all medications and I am living each day to the fullest. My sister was all for me having the surgery because she knew how unhappy I was. She was always the smaller one and now she is so jealous because I am smaller than she is now. I LOVE it. My whole world has changed and I thank God every day that I was blessed with the courage to go through with this surgery and had a chance to start living again. Don't let anyone bring you down. It is not for anyone but if you have tried everything and nothing seems to work for you I believe it could be the answer for you. You are doing this for you and not anyone else. Hang in there. I think you are ready to get this underway. Just remember your family here will be here for you and support you all the way. Good luck.
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12-12-2009, 09:50 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,641
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Gee, if your sister is so dead set against having the surgery, I think it's entirely appropriate that she doesn't have it!! Unless she has a power of attorney or legal guardianship over you, she really has no vote otherwise.
It'd be interesting to examine her real motives for this stand, but I doubt you could peal down that far without a whole lot of couch time. In the meantime, you do what is best for you, not what someone tells you is best for you. You are the only one qualified to make this important decision. We here know a whole lot more about it than your sister, and none of us would dare tell you the right course for you, but you know you can always count on us for support.
One more thing - training in one area of medicine does not automatically confer expertise in all areas of medicine. Has she had specialized training in WLS issues, or has she gotten her post-graduate training by watching "The Biggest Loser"? As an example, I am a licensed professional engineer. The law requires that I limit my practice to my own area of expertise. If I venture outside my area of competence because I watched a show on the Discovery Channel, I am a) a fool and b) subject to prosecution if I get it wrong. Would that everyone would understand so clearly their own personal limitations!!
CT
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12-12-2009, 11:56 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Georgia
Posts: 336
Weight Statistics lost 14 lbs on 2 week preop diet Start Date:
11/16/09 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
287 lb Start Weight:
182 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
32 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.5853658537 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index49.2580566406 BMI Start:
31.2368164062 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Angie, it is completely normal for someone to have mixed emotions about having surgery. I was scared too, and I had so many doubts. I wondered if I had really tried hard enough on my own. I went through a lot of mixed emotions before surgery. 2 weeks before my surgery I went for my pre op appt and started my pre op diet. At that point I was starting to feel more at peace with my decision. The weekend before surgery I was very calm and at peace. I think I kept busy, cleaning and doing everything I could to keep my mind off of it.
Now at a month out, I feel so much happier. I feel like I have some hope of finally being successful with weight loss. I still have some mixed emotions...some days I wonder if I made a mistake, but I'll bet in six months I won't be wondering. I guess it's normal to have those feelings early out. For me, I've been obese since childhood, so I still have a hard time believing that anything will work for me.
As far as your sister...I bet she is just worried about you. But regardless, it is your choice. You have prayed about it and know in your heart that you have made the right decision for yourself. Maybe after she sees the results she will be more supportive.
Good Luck!
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12-13-2009, 03:21 AM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Near Buffalo NY
Posts: 281
Weight Statistics April 29,2009 Start Date:
November 11, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
230 lb Start Weight:
102 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
128 lb Weight Loss:
-18 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.652173913 % % Lost:
A year Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.4533727493 BMI Start:
19.2706261758 BMI Current:
22.6713249127 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Originally Posted by dixieladybug  I just don't understand why so many people put this surgery down. I think that they just don't know a lot about it or understand it. I believe with all my heart that it saved my life. I was home bound and would not leave the house unless it was a must. I was on so many medications and was in such bad health. I could not do things that I wanted to do and my self-esteem was so low. I was ashamed of the way looked. I was letting life pass me by.. Now I am off all medications and I am living each day to the fullest. My sister was all for me having the surgery because she knew how unhappy I was. She was always the smaller one and now she is so jealous because I am smaller than she is now. I LOVE it. My whole world has changed and I thank God every day that I was blessed with the courage to go through with this surgery and had a chance to start living again. Don't let anyone bring you down. It is not for anyone but if you have tried everything and nothing seems to work for you I believe it could be the answer for you. You are doing this for you and not anyone else. Hang in there. I think you are ready to get this underway. Just remember your family here will be here for you and support you all the way. Good luck. | HI
And it doesn't help when so called professional people like Joy Behar puts it down also. She had the guy from the biggest loser on her show the other night and she mentioned if he had ever considered weight loss surgery and her mouth just pursed up and you could tell she was totally against it! I wanted to call in and tell her not to show her displeasure/distaste until she had walked a mile or more in OUR shoes and until she had actually listened to WHY most of us had this operation!
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12-13-2009, 06:01 AM
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Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan
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Aw (((((HUGS)))))) You are the only person who can decide what's best for you.
Just wait till next time this year and see what your family has to say about all this doodah.
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12-13-2009, 02:01 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: May 2009 Location: Idaho
Posts: 144
Weight Statistics 10/05/09 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
244 lb Start Weight:
122 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
122 lb Weight Loss:
-23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
50 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index39.378328742 BMI Start:
19.689164371 BMI Current:
23.4010560147 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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No one was more scared than I was to have the surgery!! I have an aversion to doctor and especially surgery, but did just fine and came thru with flying colors and I'm sure you will too!!
As for your sister's opinions..that's just it...her opinion. You have to make your own decision about your own body!!!
Good luck!!
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