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07-27-2010, 01:07 AM
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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|  DAY 7 and feeling regret...
Im on day 7 post op of the Gastric Bypass... I new that it would be a huge change but I have found myself feeling regret on the decision to go ahead. I feel separated from everyone... So much of our life is centered around food and Im the only one not eating... I keep waiting for the day when I can actually join my family for dinner....  | 
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07-27-2010, 01:56 AM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New York
Posts: 283
Weight Statistics 08/31/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
208 lb Start Weight:
140 lb Current Weight:
118 lb Goal Weight:
68 lb Weight Loss:
22 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.6923076923 % % Lost:
08/31/2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index38.0395421436 BMI Start:
25.6035379813 BMI Current:
21.5801248699 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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That day will come, I promise you! Right now you're experiencing "buyer's remorse" which so many of us suffer from after surgery. Every day gets a little easier, especially when you see that scale starting to move in the downward direction instead of upwards. Hang in there. We're all here to support you.
__________________ Lana  Revision from Lap Band to RNY August 31, 2009  | |
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07-27-2010, 04:05 AM
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| | Super Moderator
Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan
Posts: 24,797
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Welcome to the board, thank you for joining us.
Congratulations on joining the Losers' Bench.
(((((HUGS))))) May your journey go well.
Your feelings at your present stage is quite normal. Just about everyone has gone through it. You are still healing, especially your insides, since it had a major redo, it's going to take 3-4 months until the swelling in your pouch and the separted stomach, especially along the staple lines, go away, and the staple lines merge completely, and your rearranged system realigns and readjusts all the functions.
You need to keep up with your fluids at this stage, as dehydration can cause depression and tiredness among other things.
Just hang in there, come to this board and post as often as you feel like, you will find lots of people who are where you're at, plus lots of people who've been there and done that.
This is as much if not more, a mental journey as it is a physical journey, so take things easy and one day at a time, I'm sure you'll do well.
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07-27-2010, 04:13 AM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Southern Oregon
Posts: 206
Weight Statistics April 30, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
274 lb Start Weight:
165 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
109 lb Weight Loss:
20 lb Lb Left to Lose:
39.7810218978 % % Lost:
5/2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.2199265381 BMI Start:
26.6287878788 BMI Current:
23.4010560147 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Hey There,
Things will feel better soon. I found that I would still eat with everyone, I just had a very small (ok, almost non existent portion of whatever I was allowed) or just sat and drank my meal  ... that's no fun, but at least it starts feeling a bit more normal than not eating with them at all. I still find that I miss being able to eat what they eat, but then I look at the 70 pounds that I have lost so far and TRULY it is all worth it. I feel so good about ME, that the food becomes way less important.
I am planning my first vacation for a cruise in November and I have actually worried about the eating (when this is usually what I look forward to). This has been hard for me, but just think about what I will look like in that new sexy black dress I bought... Umm, can you say HOT HOT HOT!!! It is just a learning process about how to replace our "food" thoughts with these fantastic thoughts...
Goodluck to you and we are here for you, even when it is tough!
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07-27-2010, 06:49 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Central Virginia
Posts: 2,952
Weight Statistics 4/30/2007 Start Date:
9/5/07 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
233 lb Start Weight:
127 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
106 lb Weight Loss:
2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.4935622318 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index39.9899902344 BMI Start:
21.7971191406 BMI Current:
21.4538574219 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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We had a bunch of friends over a few weekends ago and everyone brought food to share. Now I'm nearly 3 years out and can eat most foods (still stay away from sausage/brats/hot dogs!) and to be polite I took the tiniest amount (about 1 teaspoon) of each dish, just enough for one taste. When I sat down at the table my girlfriend commented on how I had learned to get a taste of everything without overdoing it.
Our family and friends get used to us eating like birds, the important thing is that we still join them for a meal, not what we eat.
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07-27-2010, 08:13 AM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Southern Missouri
Posts: 83
Weight Statistics July 27 2010 Start Date:
Oct. 29 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
260 lb Start Weight:
217 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
43 lb Weight Loss:
37 lb Lb Left to Lose:
16.5384615385 % % Lost:
july of 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index39.5285467128 BMI Start:
32.991133218 BMI Current:
27.365916955 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I have not had my surgery yet, so I do not know what you are going througph. I am sending you my prayers, that God will help you deal with the pain.
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07-27-2010, 08:21 AM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Durham, NC
Posts: 146
Weight Statistics January 19, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
274 lb Start Weight:
137 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
50 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index48.5316200554 BMI Start:
24.2658100277 BMI Current:
23.9115646259 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I went through the same thing about a month out from surgery. I even broke down in tears and told my husband I wish I had never had the surgery because I could not eat anything that was "good". He sympathized - a little. Probably thought I was loosing my mind. But it all passed and now I am 6 months out and down 91 pounds since surgery. Absolutely NO REGRETS now!!!!! The emotions you are feeling are completely normal and, in a few months, you will look back on all this with a smile when you see the "new you" in the mirror. Good luck to you.
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07-27-2010, 09:37 AM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Staten Island
Posts: 375
Weight Statistics January 18th 2010 Start Date:
February 1st 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
378 lb Start Weight:
163 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
215 lb Weight Loss:
13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
56.8783068783 % % Lost:
June 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index62.8956213018 BMI Start:
27.1216568047 BMI Current:
24.9585798817 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Echoing what everyone else said, and sending you some cyber {{{{{{hugs}}}}} as well. Your remorse will lessen as your weight does.
__________________ Lisa Lap RNY 2/1/2010 highest/current/goal 378/163/150 Arrived in Twoterville 4/19/10 Proud Century Club member since 5/24/10 Halfway to goal 6/12/10 Century and a half club member 8/30/10 Pulled in to Onederland on 11/17/10 Double century club 2/11/11 13 lbs from goal!!!!!!  | |
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07-27-2010, 09:53 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 970
Weight Statistics All of my life! Start Date:
12/01/08 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
309 lb Start Weight:
138 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
171 lb Weight Loss:
-32 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.3398058252 % % Lost:
Original 12/09 Actual 09/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index49.8684573003 BMI Start:
22.2713498623 BMI Current:
27.4357208448 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Good old 'buyers remorse' .. I woke up from surgery saying to myself, 'what the 'h' have you done to yourself'? But I survivied & you will too. Concentrate on those you see here. Our progress our accomplishments. In the months to come this will be you! We are proud of you for taking the first of many steps to healther you!
Welcome to the losers bench!
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07-27-2010, 10:03 AM
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#10 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 519
Weight Statistics Off and on my entire life Start Date:
No longer qualify :) Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
265 lb Start Weight:
159 lb Current Weight:
132 lb Goal Weight:
106 lb Weight Loss:
27 lb Lb Left to Lose:
40 % % Lost:
sometime 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.0934911243 BMI Start:
26.4560946746 BMI Current:
21.9635502959 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodControlled Eating & Exercise
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I can't comment on buyer's remorse as I've not had WLS, I wanted to, but that looks like it's not going to happen, but here's what I DO know...a lot of where I am with my weight loss has been with the support, encouragement and the occasional push in the right direction from the people on this forum. They are wise, wonderful, and it won't take long till you're one of the crowd, although for going trough surgery to get your health back, I would venture to say you're already wise, and we're all pretty sure you're wonderful!!
Come here for the support you need, when you need it, and enjoy the journey it will be one of the most exciting ones you've ever had!! (promise!) I'll be watching, I know you'll do great things!!
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