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05-02-2011, 05:29 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Indiana
Posts: 547
Weight Statistics June 6 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
230 lb Start Weight:
180 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
50 lb Weight Loss:
45 lb Lb Left to Lose:
21.7391304348 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index40.7382212144 BMI Start:
31.8820861678 BMI Current:
23.9115646259 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|  Fear of a perfect life??
Well, as I posted in Coffee Talk, I am patiently waiting ins. approval. All is going well. I asked this question in a support group meeting last week I was lucky to get to attend. My nut was there and gave me his input...but I want to hear from people who have actually went through the wls process. So here it is....
I have a wonderful life...not easy....but the obstacles I have encountered have been overcome. I am very happy and blessed. My weight/health has loomed over me and is really my only holdback in life. I don't want my life to change ( I know it will) but I want my quality of life to improve. I lay and think about how much better my life will be and well....I get scared. I don't understand it. I don't feel like that all the time, just sometimes I think about it. My nut said this is normal for some people. He asked if I felt like I don't deserve this? I said no, I think I do and I feel so lucky to be doing this. He said that was good and that some people have so many problems they have a rough time dealing with the fact that wls did not cure all their problems.
But have any of you had this feeling? I can't explain (wish I could), except that I get scared feeling about life be so great! LOL, it sounds silly....I guess this is just one my "things" I have to work through. Thanks
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05-02-2011, 05:35 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Dallas, Tx Area
Posts: 676
Weight Statistics 12/30/2010 Start Date:
1/31/2011 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
260 lb Start Weight:
171 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
89 lb Weight Loss:
41 lb Lb Left to Lose:
34.2307692308 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index49.1212039774 BMI Start:
32.3066380005 BMI Current:
24.5606019887 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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It is perfectly normal to feel nervous about the changes about to be kicked off in your life. You just take it day by day.
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05-02-2011, 06:44 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Southern Mississippi
Posts: 840
Weight Statistics August 2010 Start Date:
Dec. 21st 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
295 lb Start Weight:
133 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
-17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
54.9152542373 % % Lost:
Reached 12/17/11 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.198485186 BMI Start:
20.8284695923 BMI Current:
23.4907551793 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Could some of the fear be just being afraid of the unknown. Change in its self is scary. Maybe it is easier to stay the same rather than take the leap. For me the fear was...will it be all that I imagined, could it even come close to my expectations. So far more than I ever thought!!! It's not an easy choice. Just the right one for me. Good Luck on your approval. Chin up! No matter your choice, it will be the right one for you at the place where you are at now.
Monica
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05-02-2011, 06:55 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgetown,TN
Posts: 2,278
Weight Statistics way to long to remember!! Start Date:
12-09-09 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
282 lb Start Weight:
125 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
157 lb Weight Loss:
-25 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.6737588652 % % Lost:
I just want to be healthy Goal Date:
Body Mass Index48.3999023438 BMI Start:
21.4538574219 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Normal feelings,the fear of the unknown was awful for me but once the weight started coming off and I realized I could do things I hadn't been able to even think about in over 20 yrs....I said to myself "look out world here I come" and haven't stopped yet lol!!!
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05-02-2011, 07:47 AM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: New Hampshire
Posts: 225
Weight Statistics January 31,2011 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
310 lb Start Weight:
209 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
101 lb Weight Loss:
74 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.5806451613 % % Lost:
2/2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index54.908037289 BMI Start:
37.0186444948 BMI Current:
23.9115646259 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I felt the same way..On one hand I wanted/needed change but on the other was terrified of it. I think for me it was that I was doing something to help myself and more concerened on how it would affect everyone around me. Like yvonneiam said once the weight started coming off I stopped thinking about it. You will go through a flood of different emotions (mine really hit hard a week before surgery) but you just have to look at the other side.we are all here for you so if you need help working through it just ask!!!!
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05-02-2011, 08:15 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: S. Jersey
Posts: 2,481
Weight Statistics ?? Most recently Oct. 2010 Start Date:
January 31 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
342 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
148 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.2748538012 % % Lost:
no pressure... 1 year? 1-2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.4990548204 BMI Start:
28.6456626759 BMI Current:
27.9073724008 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I see myself like you. I wasn't unhappy in life...I was content...but I wanted healthier longevity and better mobility. I didn't have diabetes or high blood pressure..my joints were aching, and I had some lower back pain. But I realized w/o losing the weight FOR REAL and KEEPING IT OFF, I wasn't going to have a good quality of life... I would basically live out a Ground Hogs Day scenerio... and I didn't want that.
I think it is normal to question your reasons..and your outcome..Good luck. I hope your get approved. Then, it is entirely up to you. Personally, I have no regrets, I am 3 months out.
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05-02-2011, 12:01 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Michigan
Posts: 516
Weight Statistics January 2009 Start Date:
Sept 29, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
299 lb Start Weight:
176 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
31 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.1371237458 % % Lost:
Sept 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index54.6818418314 BMI Start:
32.1873048907 BMI Current:
26.517950052 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| No such thing a perfect...
However, i do understand how you feel. I would describe it as " an overwhelming joyous feeling, that is so intense that it is scary".  . It is hard for you to process the additional happiness... that's to go from a great life to a kick ass life is alot to confront all at once.. But it would be great so don't be scared but brace yourself... it is going to be fun ride..
"it's all a process"
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05-02-2011, 01:26 PM
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| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,116
Weight Statistics December 1, 2008 Start Date:
January 30, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
312 lb Start Weight:
170 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
142 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.5128205128 % % Lost:
July 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.0693131695 BMI Start:
25.1018693552 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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WLS is surgery. It changes your body but not your mind. That is why many of us say this is 90% mental and 10% physical.
The tool will help you control your eating but what you do with that will make the difference in what your life will become.
Personally it has allowed me to do more than whan I weighed this same weight 25-30 years ago. I am more physically fit and active and have more energy than I did when I weighed the same.
I feel like I have a second chance at living and while chonologically I am older, I can and do compete with people half my age in physically challenging sports (and beat them).
Dont fear change, no matter how good you believe you have it now, it will be even better if you have the right attitude.
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