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02-02-2012, 09:42 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Phoenix, Arizona
Posts: 81
Weight Statistics Always Start Date:
01/06/2012 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
315 lb Start Weight:
241 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
74 lb Weight Loss:
96 lb Lb Left to Lose:
23.4920634921 % % Lost:
12/12/12 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index59.5122278957 BMI Start:
45.5315775329 BMI Current:
27.3945176028 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Tonight I'm here thinking about food. All the foods I miss. Then I got thinking I'll never be able to eat them as I did before. It's not that I'm hungry, it's feels like a loss. I think I was in a depressed mood because my family has gone out to eat as usual but they didn't invite me. I felt bad. I cried then thought well I guess they did it so I wouldn't have to see them eating the good stuff. I am learning this surgery of mine isn't a new step for me only but a new step for my family. I'm strong enough and getting even more stronger not to have to indulge, plus I can't. So instead of being sad and missing my family I worked out as much as I can. (The surgeon hasn't let me totally work out yet.) I guess I will have to teach them and get them to go some place a little healthier where I can have something. Hmmm...teaching them is going to be fun. 
I just needed to share some of my thoughts as I was getting depressed till I found the positive in the situation.
Thanks for listening! 
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02-02-2012, 10:57 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 222
Weight Statistics 1-25-2012 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
345 lb Start Weight:
268 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
77 lb Weight Loss:
103 lb Lb Left to Lose:
22.3188405797 % % Lost:
12-25-13 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index57.4047337278 BMI Start:
44.5926627219 BMI Current:
27.4544378698 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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your family wont know how you feel unless you tell them...i had my surgery on jan 26th 2012..i still cook for my family and go with them when they eat out...i get a craving occasionally but it gets better...at this point i am just looking foward to scrambled eggs lol ...silly huh? but if the feeling of loss wont leave you might want to talk to the physc doc who cleared you for the surgery..im sure he or she would be glad to work with you thru the feelings...anyways dont give up try to smile every day...i hope you start to feel better soon!!
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02-02-2012, 11:19 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,641
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Originally Posted by Anna  ... Then I got thinking I'll never be able to eat them as I did before. ... | It's eating as you did before that brought you here to WLS. You really wanna go back there?  
You aren't the first to mull these thoughts in your head. Others before you have shared their feelings of loss for their old familiar friend, food. It's a radical change all of us have had to come to grips with.
It seems to be easier if you go forward looking to the future than the past, though. The future is where your new life lies, just waiting for you to claim it!
You'll get through it. Be strong!!
CT
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02-03-2012, 12:41 AM
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| | Newbie
Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Brooklyn,New York
Posts: 7
Weight Statistics June 20, 2011 Start Date:
July 20, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 11"
Height:
328 lb Start Weight:
237 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
91 lb Weight Loss:
57 lb Lb Left to Lose:
27.743902439 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index45.7417179131 BMI Start:
33.0511803214 BMI Current:
25.1021622694 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Boy do I recall this feeling all too well! First congrads on your new life changing experience. Your current state is TEMPOARY! You will not even remember this feeling in a few weeks, and trust me it is all worth it! I am so much happier and healthier now, and soon you will be too! Let’s face it this early in your operation you don’t have a choice, but to deal with this because trying to eat will hurt... (It still does for me if I don't chew properly) This time will teach disciple... Keep up the good work!
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02-03-2012, 03:00 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: May 2011 Location: Colorado
Posts: 769
Weight Statistics February 1, 2011 Start Date:
AUGUST 30TH, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
274 lb Start Weight:
170 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
104 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.9562043796 % % Lost:
1 year Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.2199265381 BMI Start:
27.4357208448 BMI Current:
25.8218549128 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i wandered in the kitchen earlier and could not think of why I went in there...food that is why! I had to turn around and march back out...but I said to myself out loud...why did I come in here?
I get the muchies but the funny thing is I don't want the soda or the chocolate of old. I just want a munch of something even 1/2 a cracker will do. You'll start feeling more in control.
Feels real good to eat 1/2 a portion and push it away.
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02-03-2012, 03:08 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: May 2011 Location: Colorado
Posts: 769
Weight Statistics February 1, 2011 Start Date:
AUGUST 30TH, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
274 lb Start Weight:
170 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
104 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.9562043796 % % Lost:
1 year Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.2199265381 BMI Start:
27.4357208448 BMI Current:
25.8218549128 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i wandered in the kitchen earlier and could not think of why I went in there...food that is why! I had to turn around and march back out...but I said to myself out loud...why did I come in here?
I get the muchies but the funny thing is I don't want the soda or the chocolate of old. I just want a munch of something even 1/2 a cracker will do. You'll start feeling more in control.
Feels real good to eat 1/2 a portion and push it away.
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02-03-2012, 06:55 AM
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| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Colorado
Posts: 1,081
Weight Statistics August 15th, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
278 lb Start Weight:
176 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
102 lb Weight Loss:
11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.690647482 % % Lost:
August 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index39.8844897959 BMI Start:
25.2506122449 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodSleeve Gastrectomy
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Anna, you are not alone. Many times smokers are prescribed anti-depressants as they quit that habit, because it is a loss of sorts. We're all food addicts, and this surgery doesn't change that- in fact, it's stopping that behavior cold turkey which is very hard and a shock. This am, I weigh 188 pounds. I reflected on the fact that I haven't been at this weight since I was 22 (that's 23 years ago) and I'm thrilled. BUT, my stupid brain would love to celebrate with a stack of pancakes, bacon and some hash browns. That's painful and makes me feel like I'll gain this weight back at some point. Point is, this is a difficult and sometimes desparate journey that only another person who's gone through it can understand. Lean on your friends here, scream, cry, cuss your silly fat brain. We'll help you fight this and continue to move forward.
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02-03-2012, 09:31 AM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Washington
Posts: 46
Weight Statistics 12/28/2011 Start Date:
1/11/2012 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
273 lb Start Weight:
219 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
54 lb Weight Loss:
79 lb Lb Left to Lose:
19.7802197802 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index44.0585399449 BMI Start:
35.3436639118 BMI Current:
22.5941230487 BMI Goal:
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I am at the the same stage as you are after surgery. (1/11/12) I know how you feel about feeling depressed regarding having to give up on certain foods. If you ever want to talk, let me know.
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02-03-2012, 12:42 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Waukesha, Wisconsin
Posts: 168
Weight Statistics 12/25/2010 Start Date:
04/12/2011 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
386 lb Start Weight:
160 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
226 lb Weight Loss:
-15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
58.5492227979 % % Lost:
12/29/2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index56.9960092418 BMI Start:
23.6252888049 BMI Current:
25.8401596303 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I have found that I still enjoy going out to eat with my family. It was awkward at first, and they also did not invite me at first either. I felt left out and lonely, just as it seems you did. What I did to change it: I invited them out to eat with me. I found that I could eat the soup at the resturant and enjoy the company while everyone else got their dinners. I did not miss the food near as much as I missed the people, the companionship.
If you make an issue of it, so will they. Love the change, and keep the best parts of your old life. That is what I am trying to do anyway.
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02-05-2012, 02:07 AM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Phoenix, Arizona
Posts: 81
Weight Statistics Always Start Date:
01/06/2012 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
315 lb Start Weight:
241 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
74 lb Weight Loss:
96 lb Lb Left to Lose:
23.4920634921 % % Lost:
12/12/12 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index59.5122278957 BMI Start:
45.5315775329 BMI Current:
27.3945176028 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Thank you all so much. I did take your advice and kind words to heart. It helped me. I did go out to eat with my brother, as he is the one encouraging me to go thru this and has helped me along so much...but we had fun! I'm barely able to eat the soft/pureed foods and it was actually fun looking over a menu and deciding together what would be the best for me to eat. Kinda still difficult at this stage and nervous of eating still as I don't want to end back up in the emergency room. We choose together and I actually had to encourage him to get what he wanted to eat and not feel bad for me. In the end he ate more healthy (he would be a skeleton if he lost weight though) but he choose something more wisely. 
Thanks again I'm sure I'll be back be depressed and looking for the snap out of it words from everyone!
Hugs to all. 
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