just had surgery

natasha · 05-26-2007, 12:07 AM

Hello everyone, I just had the surgery ten days ago-gastric bypass. I'm a mother of three and very happy in my marriage. My concern is that after the surgery I get very emotinal all the time and I cry. Very unlike me. I also have a lot of free time since I'm staying home after the surgery so I read a lot about the side effects that gastric bypass surgery may cause. I guess I freaked out, some of the sites tell you that you can die early due to lack of vitamins and minerals. Please someone respond , tell me that you are happy with the surgery. I know its only been 10 days and I have to give it more time to see the results, but I dont want to spend the rest of my life worrying that this decision to have the surgery is a wrong decision . Did anyone feel like this after their surgery?

DocSanae · 05-26-2007, 01:48 AM

Welcome to the board, thank you for joining us.
Congratulations on making it to the Loser's Bench.

Ahhhh, you are on one big emotional roller coaster ride that everyone finds themselves on from time to time.
It's quite normal to question your decision when still early out from surgery.
Once you can see/feel your weightloss--feel lighter, brighter, have more energy--you'll feel better.
One side effect from this surgery that you may or may not encounter, is the blues that come and go. This is pretty normal, and the culprit is your hormones going wacky during the rapid weightloss phase, but if it seems to get out of hand, don't hesistate to see a pro, and get therapy.
Plenty have traveled the route you have, take the time to read as many of the threads/posts here, you'll find others going through the same thing you are.

Just one thing, stick to your surgeon's instructions as closely as you can, when you find something that you can't go by, ask your surgeon if it's okay to deviate. Also, get those vitamins and supplements in, that your surgeons tells you to take, that is very important in preventing the nutritional deficiencies. Those who have had trouble are the ones who didn't take the vit/supplement requirement seriously. You'll do fine so long as you listen to what your surgeon tells you, and ask him/her Qs where you have Qs.

((((((((HUGS))))))))) May your journey go well.

fr1endly2 · 05-26-2007, 05:27 AM

NATASHA....
this emotional ups and downs is very common
and could last a good part of the first year
post op.
IF its unbearable seek medical help for meds.
I know it was in my character either but got to
me a bit that first year. i still get moody but
im trying a supplement that someone suggested
for my moods...i can only hope. I never fully
understood why when i was down 100 lbs i wasnt
happy but its part of the surgery and rapid weight loss
to be eomtional. FOR some too its the looseing of their
best friend food and a greiving time is quite normal
as well.

THIS is a major surgery and yes complications can arise
during those first months.
JUST relax, keep your doctor informed of things and all should be fine.DONT ignore anything that doesnt seem right, keep walking
and im sure you will do fine. THE percent that have serious complications
are lo. RELAX, follow the rules your surgeon gave you for the eating
and i am sure all will be perfect for you!
hugs

myavt · 05-26-2007, 09:35 PM

Dear Natasha;

It seems like you're expecting sooooooo much of yourself!!! You had MAJOR surgery 10 days ago, have a marriage, 3 kids, and a home to maintain, etc. right now. That's A LOT!

It's VERY normal for ANYONE who's had surgery to be unusually tired and weepy!!! The last time I had surgery, I got in 3 arguments with my husband (and we NEVER argue) in the first 5 days of recovery. If I thought the floor was dirty, I'd instantly get upset because "I've just had surgery and he should take care of these things BEFORE they bother me"!!!

Always with me, as I healed, my moods normalized. If yours haven't become quite a bit better in 6 weeks or so, just ask your Doc what he/she thinks! Don't suffer in silence.

I did have some "strange thinking" AFTER I lost weight previously. EVERYONE (except my husband) was treating me different. It felt like I couldn't go anywhere without being on the sexual radar--something I was NOT used to. I felt "unlike myself" and it took a good 6- 9 mos of stable weight to feel like the new me "fit"!

So... ...we DO go through some adjustments and experiences along the way--good and bad, happy and sad. It's all MUCH better than being trapped in an obese body that has come to feel like a prison (at least it did to me!).

Welcome to an exciting journey!

XOXO
Mya

Kat · 05-27-2007, 06:16 AM

Natasha, I am very happy with my surgery.
Please give your self a break! You just went through major surgery. It would not be normal if you didn't have some emotions and thoughts in your head. I agree with all the above posts. You will probably get emotional at time down the road. I know I did. Just try and ride through it. I hope that you heal well and start feeling the awe inspiring joy of your journey soon! Good luck. Keep us posted.

natasha · 05-28-2007, 12:40 PM

Thank you everyone who responded. I really really appreciate all your responses. It means a lot to talk to someone about this. My famiy and friends are very supportive but they didnt go throught what I'm going thru so its hard for them to relate or to say whethere it's normal or not. Hope I will talk to you guys again. Have a blessed day!

macathrt · 05-29-2007, 05:31 PM

and your eye on the prize, it's worth it

. I also agree with all of the others that replied to you. It's definitely a emotional rollercoaster. Get help if you need it. May I also suggest your local support group if you have one. Attending a support group for me was a part of my contract with my surgeon for surgery which really helps. You'll find that we are all in the same boat and are experiencing the same sorts of things. This site is a form of support too, so get on and explore, explore

.
Please keep us posted on your journey.

Happy Losing,

Debbie

MsVickie · 05-29-2007, 05:54 PM

Hi ya Natasha,

I havent the surgery yet but wanted you to know im here to support you. Listen to the pros that have posted before me. They know its a great new life you gave yourself. Chin up now.. Have a good day sweetie.

natasha · 05-29-2007, 08:07 PM

i'm so blessed to have found this site, cant believe how much support you guys showed me without even knowing me....i just wanted to let you all know that this means a great deal to me and i really appreciate everyone that responds to my messages.

Exhorter · 06-04-2007, 10:51 PM

Glad you are here I have not had my surgery yet either but I know there are great people here who help with the rollercoaster we all go on during each phase of this journey.

05-26-2007, 12:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
natasha Whipper Snapper Join Date: May 2007 Location: sacramento ca Posts: 29 Weight Statistics 05-15-07 Start Date: 05-15-07 Surgery Date: 5' 8" Height: 240 lb Start Weight: 124 lb Current Weight: 135 lb Goal Weight: 116 lb Weight Loss: -11 lb Lb Left to Lose: 48.3333333333 % % Lost: 05-15-08 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 36.4878892734 BMI Start: 18.8520761246 BMI Current: 20.5244377163 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	just had surgery Hello everyone, I just had the surgery ten days ago-gastric bypass. I'm a mother of three and very happy in my marriage. My concern is that after the surgery I get very emotinal all the time and I cry. Very unlike me. I also have a lot of free time since I'm staying home after the surgery so I read a lot about the side effects that gastric bypass surgery may cause. I guess I freaked out, some of the sites tell you that you can die early due to lack of vitamins and minerals. Please someone respond , tell me that you are happy with the surgery. I know its only been 10 days and I have to give it more time to see the results, but I dont want to spend the rest of my life worrying that this decision to have the surgery is a wrong decision . Did anyone feel like this after their surgery? __________________

05-26-2007, 01:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
DocSanae Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan Posts: 9,474 Blog Entries: 2 5' 5" Height:	Welcome to the board, thank you for joining us. Congratulations on making it to the Loser's Bench. Ahhhh, you are on one big emotional roller coaster ride that everyone finds themselves on from time to time. It's quite normal to question your decision when still early out from surgery. Once you can see/feel your weightloss--feel lighter, brighter, have more energy--you'll feel better. One side effect from this surgery that you may or may not encounter, is the blues that come and go. This is pretty normal, and the culprit is your hormones going wacky during the rapid weightloss phase, but if it seems to get out of hand, don't hesistate to see a pro, and get therapy. Plenty have traveled the route you have, take the time to read as many of the threads/posts here, you'll find others going through the same thing you are. Just one thing, stick to your surgeon's instructions as closely as you can, when you find something that you can't go by, ask your surgeon if it's okay to deviate. Also, get those vitamins and supplements in, that your surgeons tells you to take, that is very important in preventing the nutritional deficiencies. Those who have had trouble are the ones who didn't take the vit/supplement requirement seriously. You'll do fine so long as you listen to what your surgeon tells you, and ask him/her Qs where you have Qs. ((((((((HUGS))))))))) May your journey go well. __________________ "In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun." Just a li'l bit 'bout myself

05-26-2007, 05:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
fr1endly2 Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY Posts: 6,756 Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date: Please Enter Height: 310 lb Start Weight: 167 lb Current Weight: 159 lb Goal Weight: 143 lb Weight Loss: 8 lb Lb Left to Lose: 46.1290322581 % % Lost: Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start: 27 BMI Current: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	NATASHA.... this emotional ups and downs is very common and could last a good part of the first year post op. IF its unbearable seek medical help for meds. I know it was in my character either but got to me a bit that first year. i still get moody but im trying a supplement that someone suggested for my moods...i can only hope. I never fully understood why when i was down 100 lbs i wasnt happy but its part of the surgery and rapid weight loss to be eomtional. FOR some too its the looseing of their best friend food and a greiving time is quite normal as well. THIS is a major surgery and yes complications can arise during those first months. JUST relax, keep your doctor informed of things and all should be fine.DONT ignore anything that doesnt seem right, keep walking and im sure you will do fine. THE percent that have serious complications are lo. RELAX, follow the rules your surgeon gave you for the eating and i am sure all will be perfect for you! hugs __________________ LISA http://w5.photobucket.com/widgets/dy...164/fr1endly2/ LAP RNY Gastric Bypass

05-26-2007, 09:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
myavt Guru In Training Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NewEngland Posts: 331 Weight Statistics 9/1/2006 Start Date: 5' 1" Height: 278 lb Start Weight: 188 lb Current Weight: 130 lb Goal Weight: 90 lb Weight Loss: 58 lb Lb Left to Lose: 32.3741007194 % % Lost: 05/2008 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 52.5219027143 BMI Start: 35.5184090298 BMI Current: 24.5606019887 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Physician Prescribed Diet/Exercise	Dear Natasha; It seems like you're expecting sooooooo much of yourself!!! You had MAJOR surgery 10 days ago, have a marriage, 3 kids, and a home to maintain, etc. right now. That's A LOT! It's VERY normal for ANYONE who's had surgery to be unusually tired and weepy!!! The last time I had surgery, I got in 3 arguments with my husband (and we NEVER argue) in the first 5 days of recovery. If I thought the floor was dirty, I'd instantly get upset because "I've just had surgery and he should take care of these things BEFORE they bother me"!!! Always with me, as I healed, my moods normalized. If yours haven't become quite a bit better in 6 weeks or so, just ask your Doc what he/she thinks! Don't suffer in silence. I did have some "strange thinking" *AFTER* I lost weight previously. EVERYONE (except my husband) was treating me different. It felt like I couldn't go anywhere without being on the sexual radar--something I was NOT used to. I felt "unlike myself" and it took a good 6- 9 mos of stable weight to feel like the new me "fit"! So... ...we DO go through some adjustments and experiences along the way--good and bad, happy and sad. It's all MUCH better than being trapped in an obese body that has come to feel like a prison (at least it did to me!). Welcome to an exciting journey! XOXO Mya __________________ ~The actions you take today build the road you must walk upon tomorrow~

05-27-2007, 06:16 AM	#5 (permalink)
Kat Seasoned Veteran Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,055 5/17/06 Start Date: 5' 6" Height:	Natasha, I am very happy with my surgery. Please give your self a break! You just went through major surgery. It would not be normal if you didn't have some emotions and thoughts in your head. I agree with all the above posts. You will probably get emotional at time down the road. I know I did. Just try and ride through it. I hope that you heal well and start feeling the awe inspiring joy of your journey soon! Good luck. Keep us posted. __________________ Play by the rules, but be ferocious.



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05-28-2007, 12:40 PM	#6 (permalink)
natasha Whipper Snapper Join Date: May 2007 Location: sacramento ca Posts: 29 Weight Statistics 05-15-07 Start Date: 05-15-07 Surgery Date: 5' 8" Height: 240 lb Start Weight: 124 lb Current Weight: 135 lb Goal Weight: 116 lb Weight Loss: -11 lb Lb Left to Lose: 48.3333333333 % % Lost: 05-15-08 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 36.4878892734 BMI Start: 18.8520761246 BMI Current: 20.5244377163 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	Thank you everyone who responded. I really really appreciate all your responses. It means a lot to talk to someone about this. My famiy and friends are very supportive but they didnt go throught what I'm going thru so its hard for them to relate or to say whethere it's normal or not. Hope I will talk to you guys again. Have a blessed day! __________________

05-29-2007, 05:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
macathrt WLS Master Guru Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Elkton, MD Posts: 548 Weight Statistics 2 Nov 06 Start Date: 2 Nov 06 Surgery Date: 5' 4" Height: 258 lb Start Weight: 132 lb Current Weight: 140 lb Goal Weight: 126 lb Weight Loss: -8 lb Lb Left to Lose: 48.8372093023 % % Lost: Nov. 2007 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 44.2807617188 BMI Start: 22.6552734375 BMI Current: 24.0283203125 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	Keep your head in the game... and your eye on the prize, it's worth it. I also agree with all of the others that replied to you. It's definitely a emotional rollercoaster. Get help if you need it. May I also suggest your local support group if you have one. Attending a support group for me was a part of my contract with my surgeon for surgery which really helps. You'll find that we are all in the same boat and are experiencing the same sorts of things. This site is a form of support too, so get on and explore, explore. Please keep us posted on your journey. Happy Losing, Debbie __________________

05-29-2007, 05:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
MsVickie Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia Posts: 3,609 Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date: September 19th 2007 Surgery Date: 5' 10" Height: 363 lb Start Weight: 211 lb Current Weight: 165 lb Goal Weight: 152 lb Weight Loss: 46 lb Lb Left to Lose: 41.8732782369 % % Lost: 12/31/09 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 52.0793877551 BMI Start: 30.2720408163 BMI Current: 23.6724489796 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	Hi ya Natasha, I havent the surgery yet but wanted you to know im here to support you. Listen to the pros that have posted before me. They know its a great new life you gave yourself. Chin up now.. Have a good day sweetie. __________________ REMEMBER.. Tough times never last Tough people do. This ribbon is for our Lady Lisa and all the beautiful women that fight this ugly disease. Last edited by MsVickie : 05-29-2007 at 05:55 PM. Reason: The spelling of course

05-29-2007, 08:07 PM	#9 (permalink)
natasha Whipper Snapper Join Date: May 2007 Location: sacramento ca Posts: 29 Weight Statistics 05-15-07 Start Date: 05-15-07 Surgery Date: 5' 8" Height: 240 lb Start Weight: 124 lb Current Weight: 135 lb Goal Weight: 116 lb Weight Loss: -11 lb Lb Left to Lose: 48.3333333333 % % Lost: 05-15-08 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 36.4878892734 BMI Start: 18.8520761246 BMI Current: 20.5244377163 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	i'm so blessed to have found this site, cant believe how much support you guys showed me without even knowing me....i just wanted to let you all know that this means a great deal to me and i really appreciate everyone that responds to my messages. __________________

06-04-2007, 10:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
Exhorter Big Loser Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 196 Please Enter Height:	Glad you are here I have not had my surgery yet either but I know there are great people here who help with the rollercoaster we all go on during each phase of this journey.

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