Many of us post-ops share a common experience of fluctuations in our spiritual and emotion perspective. Due to all of the physical changes your body is put through, you will probably find yourself fluctuating between riding the proverbial pink cloud of exhilaration to the confusing mental fog of periodic depression.
One day, we feel like we can conquer the world. We spring out of bed, make sure our kids and spouse are properly fed, and kiss them tenderly as each one walks out the door with a lunch we have lovingly prepared. We let people merge in front of us during our morning commute and show up to work early, filled with a newfound energy that makes us look like the poster-child for the perfect employee. But, just as we start to really buy into this scenario, we rattle our head back and forth trying to wake up because we know it simply can't be real. We suddenly bristle with anxiety, afraid of the emotional pain that comes when the rug is pulled out from under our not-so-perfect lives.
The Emotional Roller-Coaster
Even when things are good, we allow fear to turn us toward the fog again. As we feel the impact of hitting bottom, we start wallowing in self-pity, whining, ‘Nobody loves me enough.' Paranoia and resentment quickly set in. Our spouse and children are never satisfied. We are the only ones in the house who pick up after ourselves. At work, people are talking about us behind our backs in the break room. Our boss gets all of the credit for the work we do. Then we get an email that clearly states we will be cursed for 100 years if we don't forward the same email to at least 25 other people in the next eight minutes. We know how good a person we are on the inside. How come no one will give us the appreciation or credit we really deserve?
Sound familiar? You've been there. I've been there. We have all found ourselves swinging back and forth between these extremes. Trust me when I tell you that friends, co-workers, and family get just as tired of you going through the ups and downs as you do. Why can't we just be normal? Click
here to continue...
Music to my ears
As many of you know, after having the WLS and losing close to 200 pounds, I started singing for a living, launching three 19 piece Big Bands, named "Big-T and the Bada-Bings." Although I have full bands in both Tokyo Japan and London England, it is my Dallas based band that recorded our latest CD - Born To Be Wild. Well, we have just confirm reports that we are now recieveing additional radio play on two different radio stations in St. Louis Mo. Radio stations KSHE 95FM and WRDA 104.1FM are two more stations across the country that is blessing us with airplay. Please listen to some of the free samples of Born To Be Wild.
Reaching
Out
We all go through times where, although surrounded by thousands of people, we feel alone. The good news is that there are others like you and I usually hanging around the virtual coffee shop in the chat rooms and message boards at Obesityhelp.com
Book
Progress -
Physical Bankruptcy™
I have not been making the progress I had wanted to with the book over the past couple of weeks. Allowing distractions to take my focus off of writing has been a real challenge. Please continue to send your thoughts and prayers for continued and consistant focus in writing.
Physical
Bankruptcy will be a guide for those who have undergone weight
loss surgery and are now searching for answers to the mental,
emotional and spiritual questions not addressed by the physical
nature of the surgery alone.
How
YOU Can Help
I
have found a common trait among most of us PostOps is that we
are great at giving, but have a very difficult time asking for
help. I am by no means an exception. However, to lead by example
I am listing some things that I could really use your help on.
My goal is to give back to the weight loss community. You can
play an important part by helping with these three humble requests:
1.
Share the good news. Please forward this newsletter on
to anyone you feel might find it motivating or enlightening. Encourage
them to sign up on the newsletter list themselves at RenewedReflections.com.
2. Tell others about this resource. Direct friends
and loved ones to read some of the articles
on the site.
3. Provide prayer and encouragement. I find that
the more I write this book and share the good news of the hope
I have found, I come under what I can only describe as an attack.
Please keep my lovely bride Leslie and me in your thoughts and
prayers as we navigate this path to completion.
Thank
You
You
will hear me talk about the importance of experiencing gratitude
the more you get to know me and my work. I recognize every day
the many people near and far who have had a direct hand in my
progress on this journey. Here are a few that have truly blessed
me over the past month.
1.
Leslie Thompson - The most beautiful woman in the world
2. Dr. Lawrence and Coral Kennedy
3. Dr. Neecie Moore
4. Dr. Jay and Regina Rosenberg
5. Dr. Sanae Tanaka (Tokyo)
6. Dixie Feldman - Author of Dixieland
at RetroRadar.com
7. All of the awesome folks in the Obesityhelp
chatroom
